In the M & G this week I read that more than 1,100 women are raped every day in the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC), making sexual violence against women 26 times more common than previously thought.
Why is it that the only way to punish a women for anything from being too powerful to being gay is to rape her? In fact why is it that even to punish a man who has over stepped his mark a women he is close to has to be raped?
The sick nature of these subjugation/ revenge games are ridiculous but beyond all of that is the pain/anguish/haunting memories and immense suffering that will remain with these women throughout their lives. Whether it is Mukhtaran Mai of Pakistan, the 50000 Bosnian women who were raped during the war or the many victims of ‘corrective rape’ in South Africa the results are the same a brutal violation, not just of your property but right into your body … can you really ever feel secure after such an experience?
An act of rape is something that will weigh on ur collective conscience forever, it cannot be totally buried or forgotten because eventually pain erupts. Being violently ravaged is not something any human being can truly put behind them.
‘Corrective rape is nothing less than a hate crime and a clear indication that women, children, gay and lesbian individuals continue to be regarded as soft targets for cowardly acts of victimisation’, said a human rights activist.
However for some reason the patriarchal society we live in has created various stigmas and stereotypes to shame and blame rape survivors because the men that rape are victims of; a woman’s charms, a woman’s clothes, a woman’s walk… if they could help it they would probably blame the way she breathed oxygen to stay alive. God save us if the men in the world we inhabit are such weak, penis driven creatures.